love lust and choices at 22

I showed this to my roommate and he said "it sounds like a great blog" but that was as far as it went with him. :) so I'll turn it over to the public and get a second opinion..... in my blog. This actually stems from a thought I had when i was 19 walking around hillcrest posting flyers on street corners calling for a re-evaluation of the heart.

the audience is intended for a gay man.

love, lust, and choices at 22

this is on matters of the heart and thoughts on love in the gay community

I am calling for a re-evaluation of the heart

The open acceptance of promiscuity has tainted the heart. Sex has ruined us. Our greatest pleasure is the spawn of our greatest misery. How common is it to hear a guy say that they are tired of the same old thing, and they just want love. And how often does this same person, jump into bed with someone for no reason accept for the lust that drives them. Doesnt these seem contradictory.

Before i go too far and upset you, let me assert that casual sex is not the problem, so long as it is safe. Viewing a person as a sexual object first and as a person second is a problem. Sex and Love have been removed from each other.

To accept a casual fling, or many casual flings, is accepting the removal of love from the sexual experience. It is pure physical pleasure. Yet the heart yearns that sex and love come together in union. Where does one frame of thought begin and the other end?

A human being was given free will. It is your choice to sleep with whoever you choose. Your consequences, much like your decision, are your own. (Don't get it twisted consequences can be good and bad.) Now many will get offended or insulted as though I am outright attacking them for promiscuity. This is not the case or my intention. I myself am not above the influences of my desires. I do not come from a place of malice, I speak from a place of love. What I am condemning is the cycle of wanting much more than “just a fuck,” and the same people still fucking around. I condemn your sorrow, my sorrow the sorrow that we are responsible for. The longing for love.

Fuck your brains out with whoever you want but understand that as the quanitity of sex increases the quality of love decreases. If you are content with the outcomes of your love life as you continue to sleep around then by all means keep on drumming. But if your heart is still yearning for that love, than stop and re-evaluate your choices.

There are those who will scream “ what right do you have to judge my choices” and to them I answer, “no one.” These are merely words, thoughts on my mind, and you are welcome to absorb them for what they are or simple stop reading. The goal is to open discussion. I do however reserve the right to argue that the heart becomes tainted when it enters the gay community.

The matters of the heart have been forgotten.

We are stuck in a cycle. confined to the boundaries that have been established for us by the community. Think back to your first few experiences with another guy, how scared, nervous, excited you were. Now recall the feelings you got when you realized or were told that it was “just sex.” Because it has been made acceptable to sleep around, it is pushed onto the new people entering into the community. A new person coming into the community with their purity and innocence is open to the idea of love but receives a lesson in lust. Heartbreak after heartbreak they become tainted and in turn perpetuate this standard. Or are you yourself too jaded or ashamed to admit that you remember this guy.

I am but one person who thinks about things in life. maybe a little too much, but for me i think the gay community doesn't do enough thinking. And if they do, it's in a superficial manner, as in their looks and material acquisitions.